Sin. What is it to you? Is it only the things you say the Bible says? In previous relationships, I've learned that some sin is defined by the individuals involved with, or committed to, one another. A friend of mine, years ago, was baffled by his wife's attitude toward him concerning things he felt were harmless and could not Biblically be defined as sin. This dude was ready to call it quits. I remember telling him, "In order for it to work, you have to allow your wife to define some sin."
Think about it. If my mate states that she is not comfortable with me hanging out in certain environments, then my best option would be to respect that. Yes, she trusts me. No, I've done nothing to lead to a lack of trust. She, my mate, whom I love with all my heart is just uncomfortable with it. So, if I choose to go to that place and hang out, it's sin against her. She asked me not to, but I did it any way. Are you following me?
Yes, you all are "grown ass men and women" and can do what you want, BUT if you do not respect the hearts of those you say you love, then do you TRULY love them?? Selfishness is a major murderer of so many relationships. None of us are perfect. This is one of the FIRST things we should recognize and realize when going into any relationship. We all come with scars, weaknesses, flaws, and insecurities. These things MUST be brought to the forefront in the BEGINNING, and NOT after the reception, NOT after the honeymoon, and definitely NOT after the kids!!
To disrespect your mate, is to sin against him or her. To violate the trust of your mate, is to sin against her or him. To take lightly, his or her heart is sin. There are those who disagree, but why? Some folks like to abide in a face value interpretation of the Bible because it makes it easier for them to live half-heartedly. Let me say it this way, for those who may be confused by their very own interpretations and justifications for living less than their best in their relationships, marriages, and commitments:
1. "A new command I give you, LOVE one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another." -John 13:34- Yeah, Jesus said it. How exactly did HE love us?? His love for us never disrespected us! His love for us never violated our trust! His love never took lightly our hearts! That's BIBLE!!!
2. "Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.............Truly I tell you, whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me" -Matthew 25:40 & 45- I was in need, and you either did or you didn't. I needed your respect, you didn't give it. I needed to trust you, but you didn't care. I needed you to know my heart, but you took no interest. These are the things that your spouse, your mate, your significant other is saying as you stand, dumb-looking, while they are giving you heat about your doings, your whereabouts, your indiscretions.
I'm just saying.......
A friend and I were talking this morning about past relationships, our issues, and our own flaws and doings. A lot of times we look at ourselves as though something is wrong with US, when relationships fail, but the truth of the matter is this: NOT EVERYONE IS MEANT TO "GET" YOU!! We suffer relationship issues when we try to make work, the unworkable! We try to mesh what is not "meshable"!! We try to bond what cannot be bonded! If it's NOT by God's design, then eventually, it will fail. We bring things together, claiming that it's God's doing, when in reality it's us, justifying what even we are not fully certain of, deep down inside.
I remember doing a simple experiment as a kid. I filled a bowl with water. Then I sprinkled black pepper into the water. Of course the pepper floated on top. After that, I dipped a bar of soap (Amway soap) into the center. The pepper immediately scattered to the edges of the bowl. WOW! Now, you are the pepper, and the soap is any doubt or red flags that enter your heart as you consider going into any commitment. If you can't BE YOU, then it's not a good idea to continue.
I think that's it for now Y'all!!
HAPPY TUESDAY!! I LOVE EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YOU MONKEYS!!!
Bryan Hollomon Williams