Think about it. As a father, I'm poda provide for my kids without question and without seeking some sort of glory or recognition for it. In love, things should come naturally to do and to be. Love pays attention to the needs, the haves, and have nots of others. A heart, in tune with love, sees deeper and beyond words, emotions, and surface actions, and acts, responds, and approaches accordingly.
The things that you do for your spouse; do you do them for the show and for others to see and say, "wow!"?? OR, do you do them for his or her heart, providing their truest of needs and desires, not really giving a flip what the outside observers are going to say or think. Are your deeds for show? I guess our podabees and podadoos are inspired by either of two things: true love or recognition.
Over time, true intentions and motives do surface. When they do, the relationship either starts down the path of deeper, OR it hurries down the path of destruction. Make sure you are honest in your podabees and podadoos. Honesty always helps!