.......He's My Son! As I look at this picture from a few years ago, I think of the burden that Fathers have, in raising their Sons. I think of how much easier it would be if my position were, simply, "Father of a Son" but it's not. No matter how non-racial I try to live my life; no matter how many times I select "other" on all applications, the fact remains.......the world sees only in black and white. It does not see in mulatto! I am forced, by society, into the position titled, "Father of a Black Son." My parents were successful at raising 3 "black" sons in south Alabama. So, I accept this challenge and will NOT settle for anything less than success. My first step in this effort was giving my son a strong name, a name that means something, a name that means "God's Beloved." I believe that giving a child a name that he or she could live up to is necessary, but you can't give a child a loaded name without teaching the history and reason for the name. I am sick of seeing names that mean absolutely NOTHING!!! How can you expect something from nothing? This may sound harsh but I'm just expressing myself, just as every one of you reading this has the FREEDOM to do!! As parents, we are expected to be able to answer every question our children can come up with. What kind of Father am I to look at my son to say, "Your name means nothing. We just made it up because we thought it sounded good."??
"All things black," will not be my approach in raising my son, but I will teach him how to deal with what the world sees, and how to see deeper and not accept the label as the world so defines. I will teach him that there are no lines, boxes, or categories that will ever restrain him from being the MAN God plans for him to be. I remember Jesus saying to his disciples, "All men will hate you because of Me...." What I have to express to Davyd is that the world will treat him in a different way because he's black. It is so plain and so true!! No one in this world can deny the existence of racism in today's society. A sad reality, YES, but it is what it is and we HAVE to raise our kids accordingly, but to continue on a path that destroys classes, stereotypes, boxes, barriers, and boundaries that attempt to hinder their lives and their growth!!!
Davyd will grow to know that, though the world has labeled him "black," he does not have to BE "black." The name that I gave him, is BETTER than black. The MAN God calls him to be, is GREATER than black! As a matter of fact, GOD has called NONE of us to be black, white, or whatever! He has called us to simply be HIS; HIS men, HIS women; simply HIS!! As long as we point our children in this direction, I firmly believe, they will ALWAYS be BETTER than race, BETTER than anything the world has to offer, BETTER than US!!
If you do not desire for your children to be BETTER than you in all aspects of life, then YOU SUCK as a parent!! Yes, I'm a little hot!! SO WHAT??!! Failure happens throughout life, but NO ONE said you have to accept it! GET UP, and DO BETTER!! How can we turn the future over to our children, when all they know are limits of what the world says, never being shown the greatness that exists within them, according to the CREATOR??!! Our kids need to know that there is more to life than their immediate families and the neighborhoods they live in. If you can't open your mind enough to accomplish greatness, then at least set up opportunity for your children to broaden their minds and horizons.
When we make the responsibility of parenting out to be this huge mountain of a burden to carry, then we've already set ourselves up for struggle and inevitable failure!!
HE'S NOT HEAVY.......HE'S MY SON!!!
HAPPY SUNDAY Y'ALL!! I LOVE YOU, EACH AND EVERY ONE!!
Bryan Hollomon Williams