I was just listening to Creed's "One Last Breath" and it made me think of today's young folk and the pressures they deal with on a regular basis; pressures that we didn't have to face as kids, not to today's extremes anyway. Teenage suicides are way out of hand, I feel, and I think that we, the parents, teachers, and adults are failing tremendously at preparing our youngsters for the reality of bad days, the reality of loss, the reality of failure, and the reality of evil for no reason! Such things, when we were kids, were simply to be expected and was a part of growing up and general living. Key word, "EXPECTED"!! What expectations are we setting for our youth, for them to feel that death is even an option of relief from life's curve balls, bumps, and bruises??
The song I mentioned above has a verse that says, "Hold me now. I'm six feet from the edge, and I'm thinkin, maybe six feet ain't so far down." This song came out after a time when I struggled to see a future for myself, and I got to a point where six feet didn't seem so far down at all. I became a fan of Creed after hearing their song, "My Own Prison," and I've loved their music ever since. Now, the verses that stand out to me in this particular song was, "I cry out to God, seeking only His decision! Gabrielle stands and confirms, I created my own prison." The prisons we find ourselves in, are all in our own minds. I had created a mental prison for myself, unable to see beyond my own hurt, upset, and disappointments. God has given us the freedom to be whoever it is we want to be. In such times, when we cry out to God, I imagine His "laying it plain" response being, "Get your mind right!"
I stress "thinking" to my children so much, and that they should NEVER allow anything to prevent them from progress and finding solutions. "There is ALWAYS a way!", I say to them. We cannot allow our children's minds to be content with inadequate knowledge. We've seen, done, and been through so much by now that our kids should be learning, PRIMARILY, from us, all the ins and outs of life. When someone begins to accept that "six feet ain't so far down," it's because they've reached a barrier, a wall that they can't see themselves beyond. We MUST be in tune enough with our children to see, sense, and feel this. Letting it work itself out, is NO LONGER and option with today's youth.
I hear about youth who have taken their own lives and how "nobody saw it coming"! I refuse to believe it! I just REFUSE to!! After the fact, I'm sure no one close to the person wants to admit they noticed something, yet chose not to do anything. There was a time, when I ignored the look of "done" on the face of a co-worker. I knew something was not right and he was hurting, but I felt it wasn't my business. So, I kept it moving. The next day, he didn't show for work and we got notification from a friend of his that he had taken his own life. To this day, I still vividly see his face on that last day. WE MUST BE PROACTIVE in reaching the kids we KNOW to be hurting or struggling or suffering.
Our kids have to know that death is TOO FINAL!! We've gotta get it out of their bag of options, when they hit those brick walls. We can certainly see over the walls, so let's tell them what we see, and tell them OFTEN!! THE SUN IS ALWAYS SHINING!! We don't get to see it all the time, but it's ALWAYS there!! We've got to encourage our kids to speak up about anything going on in their little hearts and minds, at school and in the neighborhood, and even at home. They HAVE to feel safe when talking about things. It's tough at times, I know. I, myself, am working to improve my ability to make my kids feel comfortable talking to me about anything. It's a different day and a much different world, and I'm sorry "Old School" but we've got some changes to make ourselves in this modern parenting game. IJS.......
Death is way too final for us NOT to be pouring as much life as possible into our kids!!
HAPPY MONDAY TO YOU ALL!!! SPEAK LIFE ON THIS DAY AND ALL THE DAYS OF YOUR LIVES!!! I LOVE YOU ALL, EACH AND EVERY ONE!!
P.S. Creed got me through a LOT!!
Bryan Hollomon Williams