Some of this may come off as mean or harsh, but it's truth. Not everyone you meet, grew up with or had relationships with is meant to be a part of your life forever and always. I, Bryan Hollomon Williams must recognize this of my own existence, and I have no problem staying in my lane and accepting my insignificance in the lives of others. It is what it is. Truth be told, it's enough work already, understanding and maintaining all that my life holds for me. What is it that makes us want to be ever involved in certain lives of which we are no longer called to be a part? Personally, I think it's discontentment. We all are or have been victim at some point of unhappiness with our lives. Think about it. My life today is a combination of the sums, products, and consequences of all my choices. I believe that the choices I've made in the last year or two have set me in a place of being happy with me again, with my life, and with those meant to be here, in the now.
At this point, in life, I realize that it's 100% my fault, who/where I am today. Over the past 12 months, I've gotten better at allowing the chapters to end. There is so much more ahead, and to be written. Living in the past is not an option. If a person's significance has passed, let them remain in their chapter. Again, this may be a "jagged little pill" as Alanis would say, but it's truth. Be grateful for all who come and go. Do your best to live the life meant for you and show the necessary appreciation, but DO not stop your progress and growth because you feel you should tow along with you, all who have been good to you. God ultimately serves HIS purpose through us and through the people around us.
“People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure which it is, you will know exactly what to do.” ~Michelle Ventor~
We all are pretty familiar with this quote and it is absolutely true. Now, during my weekly Sunday meeting with my Best Friend, this thought took a bit of a turn, concerning its analogy. My Front Porch Girl is always giving me new perspectives and different points of view. I am ever grateful because there are some days my impulsiveness and emotions set me on a one-track mind approach to some of my writing.
Anyway, a new mental image that hit, while we were talking and enjoying a Flat White and a Grande Blonde in a Venti cup with 4 pumps of vanilla, topped off with steamed Breve. Yeah, Aunt Claudia & Uncle Letroy, that's what took so long when we stopped on the way to church that day we were hanging with y'all. LOL! Anyway, I saw my family and I on a boat on the ocean. There was no land around, and everyone in the world lived on boats. The boats were our lives. Out came the "doggie paddlers". These are the people who are not meant to be in your life at this point, people of the past whose significance has dwindled or died. Yet, they spend their time paddling along side your boat with the hope that one day you'll pull them aboard. Meanwhile, their own boats and families are neglected. We all have been doggie paddlers at different points in our lives, not realizing the damage we do the the relationships that are meant to be. Again, we ALL have too much and enough going on in our own boats to be committing time and energy none of us can afford, on the things we are not called to. If you are in a current state of doggie paddling, BE CAREFUL. Those on your boat may sail away, as you continue chasing unicorns and rainbows. I'm just saying. We all must keep a solid focus on what's most important, and that's all the things and people God has placed in your boat. It's not unheard of to pull up along side your buddy's boat and fellowship a while. Just know and always keep it real that your over all courses are different and that time together will be broken up or ended at some point.