Sometimes it's about class. A little while ago, I spoke about the "Sad Reality of Racism." Shortly after publishing that post, the thought of "class" hit me. Think about it. What if some of the situations in which we play the race card, have nothing to do with race, but with class. How we present ourselves to the world, to society, to others says a lot about how we are sometimes treated. Think about it even further. Would you be more inclined to hire a young black man who interviews in a nice suit who has a well thought out resume or a young man who shows up in baggy jeans, long white tee shirt, and sneakers with no resume?? An issue such as this has NOTHING to do with race. I have been that hiring manager to deny a young black man a job because he did not have respect enough to make himself presentable in a professional environment. I've had people argue, "what if he/she can't afford a suit?" My response to such questions in the circumstances I've experienced is "BULL"!!! Those sneakers cost over $100 dollars! The Hilfiger jeans cost a grip too! It does not cost that much for a nice pair of slacks and a dress shirt. Sam's, Wal Mart, Marshall's, Ross, etc ALL carry dress clothes at low prices!! And this is not a "black" issue!! It is seen in ALL backgrounds and races. I've seen and given favor to those who truly do struggle but have made every effort to be presentable and have shown respect for the company with which they are interviewing. It's a matter of class, and how one CHOOSES to present himself or herself to society.
No, it is not anyone's place to judge folks based on how they look, but this is another SAD REALITY, that society LOOKS at people before deciding how to deal with them. How can one expect a man who has worked hard to be where he is in life, to educate himself, and earn every achievement, to respect individuals of an upcoming generation who are walking around with their asses showing; gold, platinum, and silver fronts, tattooed necks and faces, who'd rather depend on their girlfriend's welfare checks and food stamps than get a job? This is not a race issue at all!! It's about folks with no class and no respect!! When addressing dress code at any job where I've managed, I ask one question: If the C.E.O. were to drop by for a visit, what do you want his thoughts of your appearance to be when he/she leaves?? This applies in all areas of life. Do you respect yourself enough to look good and decent wherever you go? Again, this is not an issue of race because this is evident in every race. So, the race card is NOT applicable here!!
Let's get off of appearance for a moment and look at VOCABULARY! Correct grammar is a peeve of mine. When adults are unable to hold intelligent conversations, it irks me. True, our learning had a lot to do with how our parents raised us, but our parents were not in any of our classrooms, forcing us to learn. So, at some point, folks HAVE to be accountable for their own learning and CHOOSE to take it in and hold on to it, or not! And again, this has NOTHING to do with race! Who we become is our choice!! There is NO ONE holding you back from being the better that you have every right to be!! Yes, we face challenges, hard times, exclusion, unfair judgment, and a whole lot of mess and bull in this world, but it is OUR own choice to BE WHO WE WANT TO BE!! You can only blame your parent for SO MCUH!! You can only blame society for SO MUCH!! You can only blame the devil for SO MUCH!! At some point, boys must CHOOSE to be RESPECTABLE MEN, even if their fathers were not! At some point, girls must CHOOSE to be RESPECTABLE WOMEN, even if their mothers were not!
Sometimes the issues we face in the world and out in society have NOTHING to do with race, but EVERYTHING to do with how we CHOOSE to carry ourselves. LET'S HAVE SOME CLASS ABOUT OURSELVES!!! GEEZ!!
As always, these are just my thoughts, snippets of my thoughts at that. If a toe was crunched, oops! Have a great evening, EVERYONE!!
Yes, it has been quite some time since my last post, but the issue of race has plagued my mind over the past few days. The sad reality, that NO ONE can deny, is that racism is STILL heavy in this country. I am not trying to stir any emotions, start any movements, or plan any marches. I am simply sharing my view of this REALITY. Racism today can be seen as a strong echo of older generations' philosophy, white AND black! Our children are not as sensitive to it as we adults are. So, I see the major problem of this SAD REALITY lying in us, the grown folks. In most cases, our children don't know of racial issues until we start talking about it, ranting and raving over it, and making unnecessary comments. We ALL are or have been guilty of it at some point in our lives, black AND white.
A few weeks ago, I went into Northpoint Mall to kill time and get some ideas of what I'd get Davyd, my son, for his birthday. After checking out several stores, I went into a particular store I had never been in before and thought it was pretty cool. There were a couple of workers there. One was already assisting someone, but the other never greeted me, although we made eye contact. I thought nothing of it. Hey, it's the south, you get used to it. My browsing continued. Three customers came in after I did at different times. Each was greeted and asked if they needed assistance. Still, no words were ever spoken to me. Yes, the customers that came after me were all white.
Whether you would like to accept it or not, racism still remains the driving force behind how many interact or don't interact. What do we do? Honestly, this is a personal and individual issue. Racism is going nowhere. It will ALWAYS exist among us. The only way to eradicate it is to change every heart and mind, which only God can do. Yet, God simply leaves US with the choice to change our hearts and minds, by committing them to Him. We all know, THAT will not happen, for every soul will not be saved, come the end of time.
It is a SAD, SAD REALITY, but racism is here to stay. We as individuals can only change ourselves in hopes of influencing others. If we focus on pouring the right things into our children, then there may be some hope for a less racist future for the world. If we can get our children to live against such ignorance and stupidity, them MAYBE some parents will begin to see a little light, learning from their kids. If you haven't already, I suggest everyone take a look at the youtube video about what children think about the "controversial" Cheerios commercial...........http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VifdBFp5pnw&feature=share
HAPPY MONDAY TO YOU ALL!! BE BLESSED!!
The distance between us and our pasts is not only determined by time and space, but also by our maturity, our mental and spiritual growth. I am bold enough to say that the distance between myself and my past is not as vast as I feel it should be, at this point in my life. I've got work to do!! Just me, being tough on me.......
Bryan Hollomon Williams