.......is a song by Ziggy Marley. Check the lyrics:
"Life has come a long way since yesterday I say
And its not the same old thing over again I say
Just do what you feel and don't you fool yourself I say
Cause I can't make you happy unless I am I say I say I
Got to be true to myself got to be true to myself
Day in day out I've asked many questions I say
Only to find the truth it never changes I say
If you don't deal with it it keeps killing you a little by little I say
Call me selfish if you will my life I alone can live I say I say I
Got to be true to myself got to be true to myself
I don't care if it hurts I'm tired of lies and all these games
I've reached a point in life no longer can I be this way
Don't come crying to me I too have shed my share of tears
I'm moving on yes I'm grooving on well I'm finally free I've
Got to be true to myself got to be true to myself
Got to be true to myself got to be true to myself"
The verse that stands out to me this morning is, "Cause I can't make you happy unless I am......." If you are not happy with yourself or with who you are, no one else can truly be or have happiness being with you, UNLESS one of two things: 1) He or she is simply content with the "lesser" you, content with your misery, and content with your caged heart. Then, the question becomes, "Do they REALLY LOVE you?" 2) There IS real love present and he or she pours into your potential, your dreams, and heart's desires; helping you to become and be the man or woman you are made to be. Then happiness follows, along with confirmation that the one you've chosen is good and right for you.
In the past, I've been that dude; true to everyone but myself. But, in not being true to me, was I really being true to everyone else? An entire life becomes a fib, a smiling face over a suffocating heart. Remaining in such a state for an extended amount of time may lead one to believing the fib, losing oneself in the process. The heart is then engulfed by a dark cloud, given over to the wind.
KNOWING YOURSELF is the easy part. STAYING TRUE TO YOURSELF is the challenge.......
HAPPY THURSDAY Y'ALL!! I LOVE YOU ALL EACH AND EVERY ONE!!
"Stone is heavy and sand a burden, but a fool's provocation is heavier than both." -Proverbs 27:3-
Reading this scripture this morning made me think of my most recent "restrained Hulk" moments. We all have ENOUGH to worry about daily, and really need NO extra! The fool's provocation always seems to be that final straw, doesn't it?? Trust me, I know the feeling! I KNOW IT'S TOUGH!!
Think about it. Many of us are under the stress that comes naturally with being a parent and a spouse, being responsible for lives, not your own. Minding the spiritual aspects, the financial aspects, the educational aspects, the clothing, the groceries, the transportation, after school care, Summer camps, practices of all sorts, and ALL other "gimme's" and "I needs", are not easy tasks. These are just the naturals!! Think about those who carry the added burdens of illness, divorce, separation, job loss, eviction, foreclosure, loss of loved ones, etc!! The very LAST thing any of us needs is a Fool, speaking Idiot, walking up to us. "I'm sorry, Sir, I don't speak idiot. So PLEASE keep it moving!!" This is what I often find myself wanting to say on a daily basis.
Again, it is tough, and I KNOW it for a fact. So, I offer the following Scriptures to help in restraining our inner Hulks when the fools show up, speaking idiot:
"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." -Proverbs 15:1-
"Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience." -Colossians 3:12-
"Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him." -James 1:12-
"Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up." -Galatians 6:9-
"To those who by persistence in doing good seek glory, honor and immortality, he will give eternal life." -Romans 2:7-
HOLD TIGHT Y'ALL!! WE SHALL REAP FROM THE GOODNESS WE SOW DAILY!! NEVER TIRE OF HUMILITY, NEVER TIRE OF SHOWING COMPASSION AND PATIENCE, NEVER TIRE OF DOING GOOD, & NEVER TIRE OF GIVING LOVE AND DOING LOVE!!
HAPPY HUMP DAY Y'ALL!! I LOVE YOU ALL EACH AND EVERY ONE!!
Ladies & Gentlemen,
Do you remember that old city by the name of Jericho? Yes, the one that stood for many years and was often described as impenetrable. If you do recall this city, then I am sure you will recollect what happened to it when the RIGHT army showed up. Right? The walls came tumbling down. Again, it was the RIGHT army.
Think about this now. Your hearts are surrounded and protecting by walls, like those of Jericho, PRE-right army. Now, there will always be folks circling these walls, looking for ways into your most valued treasure, but the walls will only come tumbling down for the RIGHT one.
Often times we open doors and windows for the wrong folks which leads to all sorts of drama and disruption in our lives. Then, we find ourselves living with regret; sorry that we subjected our treasures to common thieves and corrupt scalawags.
Joshua and and the gang has to circle seven times on the seventh day, and shout while priests blew trumpets, before they were able to gain entry. Like them, the RIGHT one will have work to do and will have specific instruction, already engraved in his/her heart. So, it's okay that the RIGHT one be made to work for his or her worthiness. Trust me, it's WORTH it, to be SURE of who it is you allow to have your heart. God knows exactly what He is doing.......
That's all for now.......
HAPPY TUESDAY Y'ALL!! I LOVE EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YA!!!
"I appeal to you, brothers and sisters, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that all of you agree with one another in what you say and that there be no divisions among you, but that you be perfectly united in mind and thought." (1 Corinthians 1:10)
I think of all the levels of discrimination, racism, hatred toward different cultures, and all the breeding of such things. Then I read such a scripture, as 1 Corinthians 1:10, written so long ago, and I see why it all still exists. We, as people, as humans, have never been able to truly achieve this as a whole!
I'm just sayin.......
HAPPY HUMP DAY Y'ALL!!! FREE YOUR MINDS TO LOVE AS GOD LOVES YOU!!!!
Once upon a time, there was a man named Jord, who made the best cup of coffee in the neighborhood. He called the cup, "the #7". Every morning, his friends would come by to fellowship, but mostly, to have the coffee. No one ever saw him make the coffee or his measurements. They just saw the top-of-the line (Världshav Brand) coffee maker, holding the pot, over which they all salivated each day. Over time, one neighbor ("Clepto" we'll call him) became jealous and began to covet the coffee maker. One day, while Jord was away, Clepto broke in and stole the coffee maker.
Jord was down for several days after this, but eventually went out and got a new coffee maker. He had the Världshav for so long that the model was no longer made. I guess they "broke the mold" after that one. Many years passed, as well as a few different coffee makers, but Jord was never able to get that which he got out of the Världshav. Clepto, over time, was NEVER able to make the perfect cup of coffee while having the Världshav. Upset and disappointed, he finally donated the Världshav to Goodwill. From there, it was bought, used, and again donated, over and over. No one was able to get from the Världshav, the same results that Jord was able to achieve.
Almost 20 years passed, from the time Clepto stole from Jord, when Jord went to Goodwill to donate his latest disappointment. Normally, he'd just drive up, drop off, and roll out. On this particular day, he was compelled to go inside a browse around a bit. After about 7 minutes of looking around, he sees the Världshav that he lost almost a score ago. In disbelief, he examined it closely. YES!!! It was his!! It was priced at $10, but in his excitement, he paid $100!
Once home, Jord immediately cleaned the Världshav, measured everything out, and again, made the #7, the perfect cup of coffee. Peace, order, and happiness returned to his life. Once again, his friends and neighbors would come over to "fellowship" and........................
THEY LIVED HAPPILY EVER AFTER!!
Now, if you truly follow my posts, you will find the morals to this twisted little tale. The only hint I will give is, the post titled, ".......A Love Like This".
HAPPY TUESDAY Y'ALL!! I LOVE YOU ALL, EACH AND EVERY ONE!!!
What can a man truly do to express the importance of his mother in his life? Words and Gifts are never enough. So what do I do? I will do my best to express what my mother means and has been to me.
I think I've always been a little different, maybe even a little odd in comparison to my brothers. With the flow, I'd rarely go. I can't say that my mother was the first to notice this but I can say that she was the first to dig into it. Somewhere around 19 or 20, I often went off with no one knowing where, to sit, to think, to contemplate. I remember one evening, after getting home, my mother coming into my room to talk. I can't remember what she asked but I opened up for the first time in my life and shared my feelings. This is when I began to identify with depression. She didn't judge or criticize. She was just there, with me. Sometimes, just knowing there is at least one person in your corner makes all the difference! I'm just sayin!!
Moving forward from that point, I noticed that Moms would always see below my surface. Though I'd try to deny my true feelings at times, she always knew better, and to this day, knows better. I am grateful for that!
The man I am today has so much to do with my mother. She raised my brothers and I to be self-sufficient. Dad taught us to do all things outside the house while Moms made sure we knew how to cook, clean, wash clothes, and iron them. She created great package deals!! LOL!
From great mothers like mine, men learn how to treat a woman, respect a woman, and love a woman. So, it is not just my brothers and I who are indebted to my mother! We also learn how to raise our kids! From my mother, I've learned that you can't paint over your kids with the same broad brush, especially when one does not require paint at all. Love them the same, but pour into their individual passions, so that they know you are there with them, you understand them, and respect their differences.
I feel like I'm rambling now. All I am trying to express is that my mother is and always will be an AWESOME woman!! She has been such a blessing to my life and the lives of many others! She's been a surrogate mother, extra mother, and adopted mother to so many friends!!
Ma, the fact that you have always seen the individual that I am means SO MUCH to me! I LOVE YOU FOR THAT!! I LOVE YOU FOR ALL YOU HAVE BEEN TO ME, MY BROTHERS, OUR KIDS, AND OUR FRIENDS!!!
HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!!!
Fishing in the deep and diving into the deep.......two TOTALLY different things. I'm just saying. Scratching surfaces enlightens you to nothing. To find treasure, truth, and real knowledge, it is gonna take a shovel, sweat, time, and commitment. Cursing the grass does it no justice, when you have yet to examine the soil out of which the grass grows. Again, I'm just saying.
New generations are simply Crumb Snatchers of the ones preceding them. Thinking of how a lot of us describe, criticize, and even judge the newer, younger generations, we have to take time to be honest with ourselves, and accept responsibility for messes we've made, failing to clean up and properly dispose of the crumbs. No generation just shows up screwed!!
THINK ABOUT IT!!
On April 27th, 2000, this beautiful child was born. I remember her eyes, as she entered this world; wide open, big, and bright. I was immediately wrapped around her finger, while my voice was the ONLY thing of interest to her. That day, Daddy placed a mean Kung Fu grip on this child's life. My life was no longer mine. My life was no longer about me. Joy, she brought to every life she touched.
Now, over 14 years later, I find myself relaxing my grip a bit. I know in my heart that she needs a little more room to grow into the woman she is destined to be. For a father, it is tough. I'm not saying that it is not so for mothers, but I am a father and I can only speak as a father. Last night was her 8th grade dance. The dress, cool. The shoes, cool. I'm sitting there, proud of myself for the strides I've made. Then they (Taylor, My Ex-Wife, My Mother) hit me with the makeup question! HUH?! Frozen and speechless, my mind goes, "Okay, I've been doing SO WELL so far! Y'all PUSHIN IT!!" LOL! I maintained my composure and was put at ease once more detail was given as to how much makeup and what type of makeup was being considered. WHEW!! I MADE IT!!
A very good friend of mine often reminds me of what I already know and believe: "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it" (Proverbs 22:6). This, I know. This, I believe. This, is where my Faith and Trust in God kicks in hard. Ultimately, our kids belong to Him. We are simple stewards with a GRAND responsibility. He loans them to us, only for us to lend them back to Him. It is my trust in God that allows my grip to be no longer Kung Fu!
Please don't get it twisted. Though my grip on my Baby Girl is more relaxed, my grip on my means of protecting her is Shaolin Temple Tight!! I'm talking 37th chamber SERIOUS!! Those who have ears, let them hear!!
I am grateful to ALL who have participated in the rearing and raising of this young lady of mine! She still has long road ahead, but the stretch of highway that involves my holding her hand is getting shorter and shorter every day.
HAPPY SATURDAY Y'ALL!! I LOVE YOU ALL, EACH AND EVERY ONE!! LOVE YOUR YOUNGANS & DO RIGHT BY THEM!! THEY ARE BLESSINGS AND NEED TO BE TREATED, TREASURED, AND CHERISHED AS SUCH!!
As I sit and watch my favorite tree blow in the wind, I notice other trees in the background, also blowing in the wind. Each tree has it's own way and sway of letting the wind pass through, none the same.
Have you ever witnessed this?
Now, accept the fact that God moves through us in the various ways we allow Him, or don't allow Him. Every one of us is different but different does not mean bad. It just meas different. If God moves someone in a way different from the way He moves you, IT IS WHAT IT IS! We get so caught up in wanting others to be what we think they should be, while failing to even know what God's breath is trying to teach, tell, and show us as He blows through our souls.
We are those trees, doing our own and various things. Lack of knowledge, chosen ignorance, and fear of the unknown is what drives one tree to despise, criticize, or ostracize another. Sound familiar? Think about it this way. We still have such behavior among different church denominations. Yet, God is able to accomplish His Will through each and EVERY one! God may even reach someone through a horoscope!! Uh oh! Was that a toe??!! I'm sorry!! That horoscope is not that different from the belly of the whale, in which Jonah found himself all those years ago.
GOD IS GOD!! GOD DOES AS HE PLEASES!! GOD MEETS PEOPLE WHERE THEY ARE!! If it's in the prison, then God will go there to get who He wants to get. If it's in the gay or lesbian home, then He will go there to use who HE Wills to use for HIS purpose! If it's in the club, the pagan church, or the gutters of the world, then God will be there to reach who needs reaching!! To say that God won't do these things is to say GOD AIN'T GOD, and that's BLASPHEMY!! Who are WE to have issue with ANYTHING God does or sees fit to happen??! Who are we to judge? If God blows you left and blows me right, then SO BE IT! The gap He's creates, between you and I, is just the right size for that person, He's been trying to reach, to pass through to Him. There is so much about God that lies beyond human comprehension. The quicker we find ourselves content with this the sooner we will become what He wants us to be toward one another.
HAPPY THURSDAY EVERYBODY!!! I LOVE ALL Y'ALL!!!
Bryan Hollomon Williams